Trust is earned. Trust is more valuable than gold. People will pay for it. And if you’re working to earn it now, you’re already creating equity in your relationships.
Trust isn’t just essential to relationships; it’s necessary for a happy, meaningful life. rebuilding trust can be staggeringly difficult Friendship demands that partners be willing to understand each other’s inner world—their needs, desires, motivations, and sense of well-being.
It’s important to have respect for yourself and others. Disclosing private information betrays the very trust someone has placed in you. Trust takes time to build, lots of time. It takes one careless — and selfish — act to destroy.
The golden rule “do unto others as yourself” would you like people to talk about you in a disrespectful way? Likely not, so be sure that you are following what you would want others to do to you.
If you aren’t holding someone’s trust or being respectful you are causing a betrayal. If you aren’t willing to work through any betrayal you have committed, then it likely means that relationships or friendships to you, aren’t of value to you.
If you are willing to work the on the relationship whether this is moving away or not being in touch with the people that you engaged with. If you have betrayed someone then you really need to take responsibility for your actions. It will take time maybe up to a year to repair the trust that has been damaged. At times there will be painful conversations to heal the things you did to betray someone. Seek therapy if you need it.
Here are 6 types of Toxic Friends and How you Can Deal with Them.
The Promise Breaker
Someone who keeps breaking their promises continually whether it is to show up for an appointment, for coffee or an event.
A Double Crosser
This negative friend betrays you big-time. It could happen when someone does something to hurt you, such as spreading a malicious rumor or lies about you. Or it could be an emotional double-cross; for example, when a close or best friend stops speaking to you and you never find out why.
Self-absorbed
Is usually someone who can stand the silence especially with those who have intimacy problems. They love to talk about themselves.
The Discloser
When you say to your friend “This is just between us” this is just a short promise until they can’t wait to tell someone else. They have big mouths.
The Competitor
Has always one up from you, has difficulty in having friends or close ones. They may have lots of education and if you don’t know about what they are talking about, they want to show off what they know and you don’t. If you want to remain friends you’ll have to be willing to listen to their brags and boast far more often than you can share your own.
The Fault-Finder
Nothing you say is good enough, criticizing others is what turns them on. To break their spell, you will have to let them know how you feel about their criticism. Be aware that they may cutoff your friendship just because you pointed it out what they say hurts you.
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Mari-Lyn Harris
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