How often do you say YES? OR do you say NO to opportunities? Every opportunity for a conversation will either advance you in all your relationships or not.
Have you ever been in a relationship where you want to help your partner or business, except when you talk to your husband or wife or people in your business they just keep saying NO? Guess what, every time you say no, your opportunities are going to dry up, your relationships are going to start to deteriorate because you keep saying NO. Saying NO, is more important for you than working together. It’s like you would rather be right than being happy. Saying NO, all the time is what you are going to get..nothing.
I am suggesting that you say YES, all the time. There will be some consideration of the idea or message that your partner, friend is sharing or proposing to you. If you aren’t going to consider saying YES, then what are you telling the people you are in relationship with?
Today, I got to take a look at a relationship that I had with someone, all the no’s or I am not doing this or that or no you can’t do that or blah blah. There was no room for consideration for YES’s. Eventually the relationship became dis-solvent. I felt this other person wasn’t on my team, they were on the NO team not on my team. They were constantly complaining of how I wasn’t doing this or that, I asked for help. The answer was, guess it? I am not helping you.
I heard from someone, the relationship should win, not each person.
From an outside perspective, when we focus on what we don’t want all the time, you’ll get what you asked for. By changing your mind about what you think about, what you ask for, get on the YES team, have more conversations, willing to have a discussion even if you don’t want to, do it anyway. Even if you don’t know how, to do it anyway. Even if your answer is still going to be no, at least you give the other person an opportunity to be heard. You might learn something about yourself and it will bring your relationships closer together. Learn to say, “Let’s see how we can do that.”
Love is the answer. The only answer. What is love?
Patient, kind, deep affection, fondness, tenderness, warmth, intimacy, attachment, endearment; devotion, adoration, doting. Love for our fellow human beings: compassion, care, caring, regard, solicitude, concern, friendliness, friendship, kindness, charity, goodwill, sympathy, kindliness, altruism, unselfishness, philanthropy, benevolence, fellow feeling, humanity.
The above means for all relationships.
I am certainly more aware of what I say and what I listen to, now that I have experienced all this, all the negativity that is spoken and how damaging it is. Not just with me, also with the people in my life. Life is too short to be negative and not being open. I am learning to get out of my own way. There is so much that life has to offer..I would rather experience happiness, asking for what I want in a positive way. Be on my own loving and nurturing team.
What are you going to change your mind about?
Watch this video about being Kind to yourself https://youtu.be/qPlW6b1D1q0
Until next time..