Listening: It builds trust, in any relationship TRUST is a major factor, it will either end your relationship unless the both of you are willing to work it out.
It will take time, as it takes small leaps of faith to grow and develop confidence with each other.
Keep your friends, associates and connections best interests at heart. When you accept a friends’ request to join you on FaceBook – write them a short note of Thanks. If someone accepts your invite to Linkedin, say Thank you and offer them a tip –
Carol Deckart says “She will refer them to someone who can help them use LinkedIn more effectively” –
I will often share “How they can create their own Social Media Map.” or ask “How can I support them?” (someone suggested once it’s too personal of a question to ask? ) only if you don’t know what you need.
Twitter, you can write them a Thank you through a Direct Message manually or use SocialOmph to do this automatically.
Keep your friends secrets, share how you feel about your friendship. The more you give the more you receive. In a healthy relationship listening is important, as you want to be present to really hear what they are saying. They will give you clues to discover what problems they have, what their interests are so you can provide a suggestion or a solution or just more conversation.
Make sure that there is an equal balance of listening and talking. If you are doing too much talking, stop and start to listen a little more.
Speaking of listening, on “What areas in your life do you need support?” or “What would you like to share?”
This was a conversation that came up a few weeks ago, as we were discussing how can you stand out from the crowd in your niche.
By the way, for the people who have subscribed to the calls & replays..all the calls are available to listen to – you’ll be e-mailed the link.
.”Let the other person talk and we listen.” or what other subject matter that comes up.
I recently asked people on a Small business platform if they would like to be a part of a JV group where we learn more about each others business and refer each other. Of course there are groups like BNI, and other organized groups. Sometimes it works out to form smaller groups too!
We had one meeting and decided our next meeting would be taking a 5 day challenge to build up our credibility. A friend of mine was giving this challenge for 1 hour/day for 5 days. This group said they were all in – but I must of missed something because I was the only one who registered and when I asked if they were enjoying it.. a couple of them said they were too busy to attend?? Well, you could just listen to the replay and do the homework. Crediblity Challenge
This leads to me to ask, “Was I listening?” Listening: Builds trust – the other person or party needs to be in engaged with you too!
Were they really interested in doing it? By their actions they weren’t. I’ve learnt some will, some won’t and so what? I mean if they were really interested in getting to know each other and our businesses collectively we could of been a dynamic group.
Now I am working on working with people who are in my profession and building up my resource bank instead.
What would you like to people to know about you? Spend some time listening and sharing your stories. If you like this kind of article please subscribe. Other articles on listening
There’s also listening to what is not being said, as well.
Listening requires us to be willing to listen, and not just to ourselves talk, hearing out what the other people says too. You know what they may say something you don’t agree with.. The best way to get around this is ask them questions about, be curious.
The builders movement is about reaching across to stop the divide, that most of us fall into.
“Our mission is to equip citizens to overcome toxic polarization and solve our toughest problems together.” Still staying in the listening lane.
Until next time
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