Why do I feel depressed? This is something I am sure we ask ourselves from time to time, sometimes the anxiety sticks and it’s hard to snap out of it. Be kind.
I’ve learned that nervousness, anxiety and anger plays a role in it.
Question #1 Why do I feel this way?
This week, I’ve been studying, and failing my tests, my nervousness and anxiety has gotten in the way, and I feel depressed or angry at myself. After failing 3x, and not knowing what I got wrong is getting in my way.
nerv·ous| ˈnərvəs | adjective; easily agitated or alarmed; tending to be anxious; a sensitive, nervous person • a feeling or reaction resulting from anxiety or anticipation: nervous energy.
What about you?
Question#2 Are there any safety concerns, about feeling depressed?
Do I or do you feel we have to harm ourselves or those around us?
More likely I would harm myself by beating up on me, getting angry at myself, feeling failure rather than just letting it go and know that I am a success no matter what!
There isn’t any physical harm that I would do to myself.
Many years ago I became depressed enough that committing suicide was a consideration..I had a big enough support that encouraged me to get some professional help. Of which I did. After a few months of therapy I left with the feeling of the song “Everyone is beautiful in their own way.“
Depression can be a serious side affect, just due the holiday time, we aren’t hanging out with family or people we want to, or they have passed on. Our expectations aren’t being met. We have lost hope, or we are in a situation that we can’t see a way out of.
Depression of feelings of severe despondency and dejection: self-doubt creeps in and that swiftly turns to depression. • Psychiatry a mental condition characterized by feelings of severe despondency and dejection, typically also with feelings of inadequacy and guilt, often accompanied by lack of energy and disturbance of appetite and sleep.
Our safety concerns right now could be not reaching out to speak to someone, or gathering a group around us. (see below)
+ Taking our guilt and inadequacy too personally.
+ Not having a phone list, or people we can call out for help.
+ Not getting enough sleep,
+ Not eating healthy
+ Not getting fresh air…hug a tree (some will say exercise, fresh air is better sometimes)
+ Negative self-talk
Question #3 Are there any acute issues we need to address? Is there anything chronic that you haven’t addressed?
If you are depressed what things do you need to look at? Getting support around you, asking for help.. if you are like me, asking for help is so painful. In order to look after ourselves we do need other people to support us. Even if it’s someone just to listen to us. “With no judgement“.
To be empathic, no solutions unless we ask for them. This reminds me of people sharing their opinons – we all have them, just like belly buttons.
Starting January 6, every Thursday I am inviting you to join in, to the Conversation Cafe
Jan 6, 2022 09:00 AM
Jan 13, 2022 09:00 AM
Jan 20, 2022 09:00 AM
Jan 27, 2022 09:00 AM
Love for you to join me, let’s see what topics come up and discuss them.. as a soon to be EOL Doula it’s been pretty good listener. That’s what people tell me anyway.
Remember to heal our depression, we need to look at what we need to keep ourselves with hope, love, kindness and just trust ourselves through the process of life!
Enjoy! Until next time. Happy Holidays for 2022!