Would you like support upon death? Death to me is not the end, it’s about going to your next journey or adventure it has many definitions. What are yours?
Some believe you expire, a departure of life, it’s a liberation, it’s the end of life and a birth into a new one at the same time.
Death will bring anxiety feelings, of grief, sorrow, grief, depression, brings solitude, sympathy or compassion for their loved one or as you leave. Some will have a hard time in letting go.
When considering their own death, people are more concerned about potential pain, helplessness, dependency, and the well-being of loved ones than with their own demise.
Would you like support upon death? This includes having a care plan, it not just the paperwork completed it is also about the health, spiritual care that you want to have as well.
As we age we need to think about what kind of assistance we want to have, from family, friends and outside help. It’s better to know now, who you want rather than some strangers just showing up.
The education that doulas provide to families can help alleviate some anxiety and could help the patient move into hospice earlier in the course of their illness.
Most patients say they wish to die at home, but a rising number of families are also holding wakes, funerals and memorial gatherings in their homes, often with the deceased present.
The good death debate has been presented in a way to being prepared. First and foremost, most people now would prefer to die at home, surrounded by loved ones.
Family members would tend to the dying, comforting and tending to them in their final days and hours. It was thought that the dying would be able to impart a particular kind of wisdom that only comes at the end of one’s life, or perhaps offer apologies for wrongdoings or forgiveness to others. Read more
A good death is “one that is free from avoidable distress and suffering, for patients, family, and caregivers; in general accord with the patients’ and families’ wishes; and reasonably consistent with clinical, cultural, and ethical standards.”
What is a doula?
An end-of-life doula is someone who takes care of, supports the family and loved ones. They are a non-medical train person who will emotionally, and spiritual help you. Some are also medically trained nurses, care givers, and doctors.
What a doula can do is be a resource, offering suggestions for the comfort of patient.
* Companion – sit with the person
* Facilitate unresolved issues, to be a listener and help to facilitate
* Advance directives if they are not already done,
* Assist with end of life planning, how the end is to be
* Vigils – being present with the family how they would like the last 24-48 hours of the patients life to be. to hold the space sacred.
* Writing the obituaries,
* Writing the eulogy
* Creating remembrances – writing cards out, sorting pictures,
* Help with finding peace and forgiveness
* Support the patient through the whole entire end of life wishes
* Offering grief support before and after
Doulas do not make any medical recommendations or give medicine to the patient. They are non-medical providers.
They don’t take the place of Hospice or Caregivers services..Doulas fill the gab of communications between everyone. The coordinators if you will.
Code of Ethics
As a certified End of Life Doula you promise to practice your profession with integrity, honesty, truthfulness and adherence to the absolute obligation to safely care for your patient and their loved ones. You promise to act according to the highest goals and visions of Doulagivers End of Life Doulas.
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